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Watch out Bay Area...
You meet him in your chat rooms, online personals, sitting alone at your local cafe, on the street when he asks for a cigarette and pursues a conversation you, or even through an acquaintance who happened to just meet him the day prior but seems to "really like him for some reason". He talks about the friends and family he has, but you still have not met any of them. He sweeps you off your feet immediately, showering you with the compliments you always wanted someone to see in you. He makes you feel special, sexy, fun, and desired. He quickly creates a sense of closeness by nicknaming you and the activities you have only recently shared together, or even feigning a flattering bout of jealousy when he sees you speaking to another. He's outwardly pleasant, cheerful, and playful, but lacks an ability to hold any defining conversation more than a couple minutes. When you ask him specific questions about his past or upbringing, he may imply rough times to arouse sympathy, but is ultimately very vague. If he does reveal specifics, they tend to lack sensible themes. For instance, when asked why something happened the way he said it did, he'll shrug his shoulders or point fault at others cruelty or insanity. Sooner or later you find more than a few of his facts either lack probability or they downright contradict reason. You will catch him in a lie fairly soon in the relationship and will be faced with him either flatly denying fact, or weaving a tale of rationalizations, followed by insincere apologies. Crocodile tears are extremely common and readily used as a tool of manipulation. Don't be surprised to have him tell you he's in love with you after the first month of courtship, or most definitely by the end of the second. Unfortunately, by then you will have already been purposely conned to think you love him too. And yes, he will have already moved in with you by then, but for the life of you, you can't exactly remember how or when that arrangement was agreed upon. Was it that he told you he just needed to get back on his normally successful, hard working feet? Did he claim that his previous roommate freaked out on him for no reason and kicked him out on the street without a days warning? Is it just that he needs a roof over his head in order to get rested and cleaned up for his job hunting? I assure you when he is gone for any length of time, looking for work is the last activity he is pursuing. Instead, he is most likely spending his afternoons preparing his next con job, scoring drugs, stealing things to sell for drugs or other things he may fancy, and make no mistake he is absolutely having unprotected sex with other people behind your back. He is a master liar and has spent his entire life devoted to being a perfect con artist. You are not his first or his last victim. When you finally expose him, although more likely he will expose himself, your life will never ever be the same. The aftermath of such deception will literally make you see the world in a completely different light. You will turn on yourself in such disgust that will not be quickly forgiven, and less quickly forgotten. You will think it shouldn't have happened to a whip smart girl like yourself, after all you weren't born yesterday, etc. The truth be told, you never even stood a chance. This type of man has spent a lifetime perfecting his ability to smell loneliness, low self esteem, sympathy, and/or depressive tendencies from miles away. They interpret kindness as stupidity and people as commodity. You must remind yourself that indeed, you were not dealing with a human being but a predator who purposely sought you out to take from you everything he possibly could ie, sex, money, food, shelter, and the ability to tell himself he's a lovable person and that everyone else was wrong when they called him a monster. When he's gone he won't even think twice about you unless he thin
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